Finding out your child is using kratom can bring up many emotions — worry, anger, fear, or confusion. The most important thing you can do is stay connected, learn the facts, and create a safe space for your child to talk.
Your response matters. A calm, supportive conversation can help your child feel understood and make it more likely they will accept help.
What should I do first?
If you suspect or know your child is using kratom, take time to gather information and approach the situation calmly. Your first response can affect whether your child feels safe being honest and asking for support.
1. Stay calm and gather information
Avoid reacting with anger, threats, or punishment in the moment. Before deciding what to do next, try to understand what is happening.
Consider:
- What changes or signs have you noticed?
- How long might your child have been using kratom?
- How often are they using it?
- Do they understand the risks of kratom?
- Are they using it to cope with stress, emotions, pain, sleep, or another challenge?
2. Start a conversation
Choose a time when your child is calm and you can talk privately. Lead with concern, not accusations.
Try saying:
- “I’ve noticed some things that have me concerned. Can we talk about it?”
- “I want to understand what’s going on and how I can support you.”
- “Can you tell me what you know about kratom and what made you decide to try it?”
Listen to understand. Even if you disagree with your child’s choices, keeping communication open makes it easier to provide support.
3. Understand your child’s experience
Ask questions to learn more about their use:
- What made you want to try kratom?
- How often are you using it?
- What do you like or dislike about it?
- Have you tried to stop or cut back?
- What happens when you do not use it?
Understanding why your child is using kratom can help you identify what support they may need.
4. Set expectations and offer support
Let your child know you care about their health and safety. Talk about family expectations around substance use and work together on next steps.
If your child is using kratom regularly, has difficulty stopping, or experiences withdrawal symptoms, consider reaching out to a healthcare provider or behavioral health professional for guidance.
What to expect when your child stops using kratom
If your child has been using kratom regularly, stopping may be challenging. Some people experience withdrawal symptoms because the body and brain have adjusted to having kratom in their system.
The severity of symptoms can vary depending on how often, how much, and how long someone has been using kratom.
Withdrawal symptoms may include:
- Irritability, anxiety, or mood changes
- Restlessness or feeling uncomfortable
- Trouble sleeping
- Muscle aches or body discomfort
- Sweating or chills
- Runny nose or watery eyes
- Nausea, stomach upset, or changes in appetite
- Low energy or tiredness
- Strong cravings or urges to use kratom
Withdrawal symptoms are usually temporary but can be uncomfortable. Your child may need extra patience, encouragement, and support while their body adjusts.
How parents can help during withdrawal
- Stay calm and supportive. Your child may experience changes in mood or frustration while adjusting.
- Encourage healthy routines. Regular sleep, nutritious meals, hydration, and physical activity can support recovery.
- Help manage stress. Encourage healthy coping strategies such as spending time together, listening to music, exercising, or practicing relaxation skills.
- Avoid shame or judgment. Support and understanding make it easier for your child to ask for help.
- Connect with support. A healthcare provider or behavioral health professional can help your family understand options and identify the right level of support.
If your child is struggling to stop, experiencing severe withdrawal symptoms, or returning to kratom after trying to quit, they may need additional support.
Find Behavioral Health Support
Professionals, youth and families can use the Behavioral Health Directory to find services that meet your needs. Connecting families with the right support early can help improve outcomes.