Be Their Person on and off the field
Coaches and activity leaders are often some of the most influential adults in a young person’s life. The time you spend together—at practice, in competition, or on the bus—creates real opportunities for connection.
You don’t have to be a counselor. You just have to be a consistent, caring adult who notices, listens, and shows up.
Quick Ways to Connect
Simple moments can make a big impact.
Check-In Questions
Use before practice, during breaks, or at the end of a session:
- “How are you feeling today?”
- “What’s been going well for you lately?”
- “What’s been a challenge this week?”
- “Who’s been supporting you recently?”
60-Second Team Reset
Build connection and focus in under a minute:
- Take a deep breath together
- Invite each athlete to share one word about how they’re feeling
- Close with a simple reminder:
“You matter here—on this team and as a person.”
Look. Listen. Love. in Action
These small actions help you support the whole athlete.
Look
Pay attention to changes in:
- Energy or effort
- Attendance or engagement
- Mood or interaction with teammates
Listen
Notice what athletes say—and what they don’t:
- “I don’t care anymore”
- “I’m fine” said without emotion
- Increased frustration or withdrawal
Love
Show steady, supportive presence:
- Acknowledge effort, not just performance
- Stay calm during tough moments
- Let them know you see them beyond their sport
What to Say When Something Feels Off
You don’t need perfect words—just honest ones.
- “I’ve noticed you seem a little different lately. Want to talk?”
- “You don’t have to handle everything on your own.”
- “I’m glad you’re here. I care about how you’re doing, not just how you play.”
Everyday Moments Matter
Connection often happens in small, everyday interactions:
- Before or after practice conversations
- Bus rides to and from events
- One-on-one check-ins after a tough game
- Quiet moments when an athlete just needs space
Being present in those moments builds trust over time.
When to Reach Out for Extra Support
Consider connecting a young person to additional help if you notice:
- ongoing changes in mood or behavior
- withdrawal from teammates or activities
- expressions of hopelessness or stress
- concerns about safety or substance use
If something doesn’t feel right, trust your instincts and connect them to support resources.
You Make a Difference
A coach’s influence lasts far beyond the season.
When a young person has even one caring adult who shows up consistently, they are more likely to feel supported, confident, and connected.
Be Their Person—on and off the field.