Talking With Your Child
When you talk with your child, think about what they can understand at their age. Keep your message simple, clear, and age-appropriate.
Talking about alcohol, drugs, and health should start early and continue as your child grows. These talks help keep your child safe, healthy, and informed.
Look for everyday moments to start the conversation. Keep it:
- Relaxed and friendly
- Simple and clear
- Nonjudgmental
- Focused on listening
The goal is to build trust so your child feels comfortable coming to you with questions.
Everyday Moments and What to Say
Pretending to Smoke
Situation: Your child pretends to smoke with food or a toy.
Response:
“Sometimes adults make unhealthy choices. I know they would not want you to do that. Smoking can hurt your body.”
Seeing Someone Smoke
Situation: Your child sees an adult smoking and feels confused.
Response:
“Adults can make their own choices, but some choices are not healthy. Smoking can make it hard for the body to stay strong, and it can be hard to stop once someone starts.”
Seeing Adults Drink Alcohol
Situation: Your child sees adults drinking at a gathering.
Response:
“Some adults choose to drink, and some do not. Drinking is only for adults, and even adults need to be careful to stay safe and healthy.”
Seeing Someone Who Is Drunk
Situation: Your child sees someone acting drunk in public.
Response:
“Alcohol can make it hard for people to walk, talk, and make safe choices. It can also affect how they think and feel. Some people who drink too much may have a serious problem.”
Questions About Medicine
Situation: Your child is curious about medicine at home.
Response:
“Medicine can help when you are sick, but only if it is meant for you. You should only take medicine from a trusted adult.”
Taking Prescribed Medicine
Situation: Your child needs medicine for an illness.
Response:
“This medicine is for you and will help you feel better. We have to follow the directions so it stays safe. Never take medicine unless a trusted adult gives it to you.”
Key Reminders
- Use simple, clear words
- Keep conversations short and natural
- Repeat messages over time
- Praise healthy choices
- Always listen and answer questions
Building open communication early helps your child make safe and healthy choices as they grow.