High school students are gaining independence and making important decisions about their future. They may face pressure from friends, school, and social media. Parents still play an important role in supporting their teen’s mental and behavioral health.
The Conversation: What to Expect
Teens may not always want to talk about alcohol or other tough topics. That is normal. Even so, parents remain one of the most trusted influences in their lives.
Keep these tips in mind:
- Show that you care and love your teen
- Let them know you want to understand, not judge
- If they are not ready to talk, try again later
- Respect their need for privacy and independence
Teens may react in different ways, such as:
- Questioning why you are bringing it up
- Thinking you will not understand
- Worrying about being lectured
- Acting like they do not care
- Feeling their privacy is being invaded
These reactions are normal. Keep the door open. Conversations get easier over time.
What to Say
Share clear information
Talk about real risks of underage drinking and drug use:
- Car crashes or injuries
- Unsafe situations
- Trouble in school or activities
- Relationship problems
- Effects on the body and brain
Empower your teen
Help your teen prepare for real-life situations:
- Talk about peer pressure, both in person and online
- Practice ways to say “no”
- Ask what they would do in a tough situation
- Help them identify trusted people they can go to for help
Be clear and consistent
Set expectations and follow through:
- Explain family rules and consequences
- Talk about school and legal consequences
- Stay consistent with your expectations
Show support
Let your teen know you are there for them:
- Remind them they can call you anytime
- Focus on safety over punishment
- Let them know you want to help, not judge
Keep the Conversation Going
Behavioral health talks happen over time, not all at once.
- Check in often, not just when something is wrong
- Use everyday moments like car rides or meals
- Follow up on past conversations
- Thank your teen for opening up
When teens feel safe from judgment, they are more likely to talk again.
Communicating on Their Level
Teens want to be treated with respect.
- Listen more than you talk
- Acknowledge their feelings
- Ask questions with curiosity, not anger
- Respect their privacy while staying involved
Connecting Through Text Messages
Texting can be an easy way to stay connected.
Tips:
- Keep messages short and calm
- Avoid sarcasm or guilt
- Do not expect an immediate reply
- Use texts to start a conversation, not force one
Examples:
- “Thinking about you. How is your day going?”
- “I’m here if you want to talk.”
- “That sounded stressful. Want to check in later?”
- “Love you. Proud of you.”
Even simple messages remind your teen they are supported.
Staying calm, consistent, and connected helps your teen make safer, healthier choices as they prepare for adulthood.