Door Openers vs. Door Slammers

Door Openers vs. Door Slammers

When talking with your child, use the following ‘Door Openers’ to keep communication open and non-judgmental.


  • "What do you think?"
  • "Tell me more about that."
  • "That's a good question."
  • "I don't know, but I'll find out."
  • "I'm interested in what you are saying."
  • "Do you know what that means?"
  • "That sounds important to you."
  • "Do you want to talk about it?"
  • "I'm here when you want to talk."
  • “What do you think you would do if…?”
  • “How was your day?”
  • “What did you like the best about…?”
  • “Then what happened?”
  • “How do you feel about…?”


  • "Don't talk to me in that tone of voice!"
  • "No."
  • "You are too young to understand."
  • "If you say that again, I'll … "
  • "That's none of your business."
  • "I don't care what your friends are doing!"
  • "We'll talk about that when you need to know."
  • "That's just for boys/girls."
  • "Why are you asking me that?"
  • "You don't need to know about that."
  • “Because I said so.”